Mehreen.Hash

Mehreen.Hash: Because it's all about others ! : I met someone once who shared the same troubled childhood as mine. We shared few details of our similar pasts, according to her story when ...

I met someone once who shared the same troubled childhood as mine. We shared few details of our similar pasts, according to her story when her parents were getting divorced while she was in school, she lost many friends. Apparently other parents did not want to influence her broken family on their households or their children. Divorce is our very common stereotype and a basic one. We all know about it and some of them have experienced it as well among their parents or their own. Whenever we are talking about divorce of any one, a common friend or a family member, we lower our voices unintentionally. I have never understood these stereotypes ever even though mine were very uncommon one. For the longest time, I could not understand other's reaction towards my situation. I have never experienced divorce not in my family or friends, I used it here as an example. This is a classic example of judging someone or avoiding for instance based on things which has no one's control. I hav...

Mehreen.Hash: Why ? How ? Who ? What ? When ? and Why me? : Curiosity kills the cat where as in our curious social circle, our questions are killing us. From funeral of one's parents to birth of...

Mehreen.Hash: 'Safety zone vs Out of the box' : Do you know where the safest place on this planet is?  Nowhere! Anything can happen anywhere but it doesn't and there are many rea...

Last week, while discussing harassment in general, I and my female friend were discussing our own experiences and reminding each other’s as well. We happened to experience many and most of it happens on a daily basis. I have received several inappropriate messages including pornography, marriage proposals of strangers on my official page which I use for work entirely, several messages insisting to accept their friend requests, people following my car (which must have happened to all the ladies in their lifetime), been groped right outside my gate while parking my car four years ago and so on. Since I have learned to stand for myself and take appropriate action more than screaming and cursing on them, the number of such incidents has decreased. Once I shared screenshots of entire chat from a fellow artist who insisted inappropriately to chat with him on my profile, many others  witnessed it, since then no one else has disturbed me. I am sharing very few and major ones here. The wo...

Most of the time , people come to me and say 'You are so lucky'. As a matter of fact, these are my most peaceful days. This year has been very lucky for me regarding work, emotional health and social acceptance. Since last few months or may be after my recent trip to Europe, I have found peace inside me. There is nobody dragging me to do chores in high fever. There is no one screaming at me, there is no one humiliating me in a house full of guests. There is no one demeaning my existence. I have not been groped on streets since last couple of years. I am not working day and night to make my ends meet. I am not worried about my safety and security in my own house. But it all feel so awkward and unfamiliar. I feel as if one day I will wake up from this dream back to my darkest days. It has been a struggle of survivor for a very long time, almost two decades as much as I remember. My first memory of this world is a gruesome game which he played several times and there was no one...

We all say that we are our only friend ...blah blah....But are we truly?  Being your only best friend truly means hugging yourself during difficult times, reminding yourself to come to your senses while having a panic attack, making yourself comfortable during illness, finding strength in your decisions, moving your houses alone, convincing yourself during your darkest days not to end this ridiculous life with the hope that one day it will be worth living it, pushing yourself to work harder so that you can gain some social acceptance, keeping yourself company while learning new skills every now and then i.e. Salsa Jive, cooking, German etc. , consoling yourself during bad days, pouring yourself a cup of chamomile tea for the sake of smooth sleep, singing yourself a lullaby after having a nightmare in the middle of the night, making yourself happy through buying something materialistic some time, looking for strategies for saving your finances, planning a vacations for yourse...